Train your temper

Buddha

Getting angry on small small things. Just read this story.

“One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him.

“You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”

The Buddha smiled and said,

“That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.

“If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.”

The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. “You are right, o Blessed One,” he said.

“Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower.”

The Buddha answered kindly, “Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me.”

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The grace in acceptance

Accepted

By accepting the current reality and yourself, real growth is almost possible.Accepting the reality is exactly means saying YES to what is. saying yes to the universe that IT’S OK and fine with current situation.
Whereas ignorance and refusal to the situation will be dangerous and will not make any positive change.

Yes. Is not so easy to accept the fact sometimes. But think like we don’t have an another option.But once you think to accept i truly say what a peace your mind will feel. Ahhaa!!

This is much more important to accept the things whatever would be, First is to accept it and then think what can you do for it? How do you come out of it? Whether it can any disease, Breaking relation etc.Denying and thinking over and over that why it happened to me? how could it happened ? Blah blah.. instead accept it OK! It happened But now I need to come out of it and I want a peace of mind now.

Why sometimes its hard to accept the truth?The obvious reason is that by living in denial you can pretend that everything is OK, which will take you into dream world where you have to come back from anyway soon or later. So you avoid negative emotions by not facing your reality. It’s easier to look away and pretend everything is fine… for a while.
The Truth Will Set You Free!!

When you are not accepting your situation, you are somehow struggling with how the present moment looks like. This means that you are fighting a fight that you can’t win. The present moment is as it is. You can only change what lays ahead, but not what lead you to the current situation.

by accepting a situation, do not create your identity (self-image) out of this situation. In other words: if you’re accepting a reality that is not what you want, do not say to yourself: “I accept myself, I am just so-and-so.” This is wrong because all that would do is pull you down. Instead, just realize that the current situation is as it is and then define where you want to take it. There is never an identity involved.

3 ways to accept and then change your situation:

1. Reinterpret it in your mind
2. Do something to change it
3. Leave it

After accepting your current reality, you are powerfully aligned with the truth. So accept the situation now and from there move forward!

Accepting your reality in this sense does not mean that you can’t change your reality. It is not helplessness. On the contrary and as said before, only if you have accepted your situation you can move past it. Now a new way, new resources and opportunities are opening up, if you want to create a different reality.

I use the following 4 step process to accept and connect myself with the truth and then to start change into the direction I want:

  • Take the courage and start a process of self-reflection to come to the truth of your current situation.
  • Accept the truth of the situation.
  • Do not judge the situation or yourself. Instead know that although it may feel unpleasant for the moment, by accepting reality as it is you are doing the right thing.
  • Then define where you want the situation to change to. Maybe set it as a goal. See it as a vision of your ideal life for yourself.